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“My parents spanked me and I turned out ok!”

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Well, actually you think that its ok to hit children.
So maybe you didn’t turn out as “ok” as you think you did.
Care to explain how non-traumatic physical discipline is wrong?
why do u think beatin children is okay tf is wrong w u lmao
Where in my post did I condone beating children?
“why do u condemn people hurting their children and hitting them if theyre doin it “for discipline” uwu”
If you put something in quotes, it has to be something I actually typed or said.
My parents spanked, not hit, me and I turned out fine. They always explained why and never did it in anger if they were still angry they made the other parent do it. They also used a ping pong paddle so my small five year old brain wouldn’t connect there hands with pain
The American Academy of Pediatrics and The American Psychological Association oppose striking a child or adolescent for any reason.
35 developed nations have banned corporal punishment at home.
Children who were physically punished were more likely to endorse hitting as a means of resolving their conflicts with peers and siblings.
As 5-year-olds, the children who had been spanked were more likely than the nonspanked to be defiant, demand immediate satisfaction of their wants and needs, become frustrated easily, have temper tantrums and lash out physically against other people or animals.
2- to 4-year-olds who were spanked scored 5 points lower on the IQ test than those not spanked. For children ages 5 to 9, the spanked ones scored on average 2.8 points lower than their unspanked counterparts.
Participants who experienced physical punishment were 59 percent more likely to have alcohol dependence, 41 percent more like to have depression and 24 percent more likely to have panic disorder, compared with those who received no physical punishments.

If your parents spanked you as a primary form of punishment and you turned out fine, it is DESPITE what your parents did to you, not BECAUSE of it.
And again, if you think it’s ok to hit a child instead of literally any other way to teach them rules, then maybe you aren’t as fine as you insist.
“Care to explain how non-traumatic physical discipline is wrong?”
Care to prove that it’s genuinely and universally “non-traumatic”? (My next request is that you show spanking actually works, that it’s more effective than non-physical discipline methods, but no worries, I know you’ll never get that far.)
Hitting a child is always always traumatic for a child. FULL. STOP.
An adult who was hit as a child is an invalid source on whether hitting kids is OK. If you want to know how hitting a child affects children, you have to ask CHILDREN.
And spoiler, they will ALWAYS tell you that they don’t like it, that it hurts them and that it SCARES them. They will tell you that they are scared of the person that is supposed to keep them safe. So their ability to feel safe in the world is undermined and that is the very ground of trauma.
NEVER HIT CHILDREN.
“Care to explain how non-traumatic physical discipline is wrong?”
Care to explain why you have to use violence to discipline your children? It really says something to me about you as a parent when you have to resort to violence instead of more peaceful means to get your children to listen to you.
Never. Hit. Children. Do not teach children that violence is okay. Do not teach children that it is acceptable to ever physically harm another human being for any reason.
And let’s just be suuuuper clear here. THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS NON-TRAUMATIC HITTING OF CHILDREN. Oy vey. The utter nonsense child abusers will come up with.